Balancing the Triad - Acceptance, Surrender, Release

Healing is an “And” art.  An "And" practice. Simple and complex.

It encompasses our desire to release our issues, and our willingness to be present with them, and our ability to be accept life with and without them.  

In my work with clients, I often describe the paradox of healing - the more we are willing to be with our issues, exactly as they are, without rejecting or trying to change them, the more easily they clear.  I understand well the eagerness to be free of unwanted problems.  I have had more than a few myself.

When I embarked on my healing journey, I was very keen to be free of an issue that had bothered me for a while.  Although teachers and healing practitioners all said pretty much the same thing, I could not assimilate into my consciousness what I heard.  That the faster I needed my issues to heal, the slower they were like to do so.

Surrendering is one of those practices that on the surface seems easy to do.  “Sure, I can let go of trying to control how this is resolved.  Yes, I can accept life with or without this problem.”  

A few days after a class or healing session, the familiar weight of how much it troubled me resurfaced.  Surrender suddenly felt more daunting.  The map more circuitous.  

I found myself needing to be reminded often; so much so that I wrote down it down.  “The more I let go of trying to control the healing process, the easier and more gracefully it unfolds.”

When it came to my own healing, I was a slow learner.  Not something I was accustomed to.   

In retrospect, I think the flame of my desperation was so intense, it burned itself out before I moved fully into surrender.  

Looking back, I recognize it was not one specific session or one particular class that changed things for me.  It took a friend asking me about the issue to realize I had been free of it for months.  I was not aware the issue had healed until asked about it.  This is something I hear from clients and friends - they cannot point to a specific time things shifted.  In looking back, they see that what once almost unbearable, is no longer part of life.  This is the Mystery of healing.