Reflections on What Heals and What Hurts

When a friend, who I have not talked to in years, recently asked me about my family, I said the most recent betrayal was too difficult to discuss. He said "then don't talk about it.”

That response gave me pause.

As I thought about his statement, I realized that each time I told the story, I felt worse.

My daily practice is to sit with whatever emotions arise for me, feel them fully and notice them shift to something different. Given my healing training, I clear the energetic patterns underlying the issues, work with all my parts and my inner child.

What became clear after the recent conversation is that although my consciousness about the relationship has changed, the story I sometimes tell has not. It had become an ingrained human habit. This was a profound realization. By repeating the same story, I perpetuated the habit by strengthening old neural pathways and rekindling flames which had been diminished by my consciousness practices.